“To love is not to possess”
A poem by James Kavanagh
To love is not to possess, to own, or imprison, nor to lose one’s self in another.
Love is to join and separate, to walk alone and together, to find laughing freedom that lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able to be who we really are, no longer clinging in childish dependency nor docilely living separate lives in silence.
It is to be perfectly oneself and perfectly joined in permanent commitment to another–and to one’s inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves receding and returning gently or passionately, or moving lovingly like the tide, in the moon’s own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child’s scars are an adult’s deepest wounds, openly free to be.
Who they really are–and always secretly were in the very core of their being where true and lasting love can alone abide.